For Widows Only - Remember - Don't Forget - 2 Simple Tips To Guide You Through Your Grief Process

It's over. You have just buried your best friend. And you, dear widow, lying in the space you once shared with Him, feel teensy as a gnat caught in a giant spider's web. Overwhelmed, exhausted, what I call, numb and dumb, unable to focus, you retreat like a snail into its shell. You tug covers over your head and outwardly wish the whole world to just go away.

Dear Widow, I'm here to remind you and to not forget, you're okay. And I got 2 simple tips to guide you through your grief Process -- Remember and Don't Forget.

Don't forget that life is for the living. Though you may feel dead as dirt, you're not. So drag yourself out of that bed, make one baby step forward *yes, you can* and get to the bathroom. Wash your face, brush your teeth, comb your hair. Now look in the mirror and repeat after me, I am important!

Congratulations.

Remember to do this 3 times a day or whenever the grief wave hits. And trust me, honey, it will hit, always when you least expect it.

Don't forget Him. He was your best friend, your lover, your soul mate, your knight in shining armor. He was your everything! It is good to think about Him. Heck, how can you not? But, and here's the golden oat in the box of cereal of life, it is important to...

Remember You.

Don't forget grief is a process and if you let it, it will suck the life out of you.

So remember to be kind to yourself -- It's okay to join a bereavement group, to attend a church or synagogue service, to make a new friend. Maybe even begin a new hobby. Find something you like to do and do it. It will act as a distraction, it will help you think new thoughts, it will get you out of the house and onto the road of recovery.

This writer took ballroom dance lessons. Having to remember one-two-three, one-two-three rock rock and step-step slide cramped thoughts of Him out from my brain for short bursts of time that gradually progressed. Yes, I felt silly when my instructor twirled me and my pinky poked him in the eye, but I got two happy left feet now. Think happy penguin dancing and typing.

I know it's not easy losing a husband. There isn't a widow alive or dead hasn't wished for a magic wand to bonk life back to the way it was. Would that I could, me, too. But remembering to not forget that you are still here, that you matter will get you through and it will help heal your shattered heart one single shard at a time.

So go ahead, dear widow, stick one polished claw out from your shell and get ready for the best of your life.

Linda Della Donna is a freelance writer who supports new widows through the grief process. To receive a copy of Della Donnas FREE E-Book, "Treasury of Quotations" email her at littleredmailbox@aol.com To learn more about Della Donna and the different types of writing she does be sure to visit http://www.littleredmailbox.com or read her blog http://www.griefcase.blogspot.com
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